Imagine ' you climb a 500 feet high cliff for a heart-throbbing experience of bungee jumping. You plan out for three months for this thrill, just to feel a surge of emotions pass through your entire body, so when you reach there at the height of 500 feet you are ready to undergo the 'bring it on man' excitement, you tie a rope around your waist and slowly walk towards the end of the cliff, and with a leap of faith, you jump off the cliff. Next what happens can be imagined by all but what if you don't feel a damn thing, not a tiny bit of jolting sensation. Why? because you are not afraid of anything, there is an utter absence of fear in your life. It sounds boring, isn't it?.
Fear is a beautiful emotion, but not everyone can understand it. Like other emotions, the source of its origin is ambiguous to many. When you allow it to empower you then it can ruin a life. Fear can lead towards excitement, on the other hand, it can also keep you safe, it also has the potential to drive you towards your goals but when you don't understand your own fears then you may end up in a disaster. It is important to recognize the source of your emotions and cope with them if someone is unable to deal with the origin of an experience that haunts him most, then it won't just cause endless suffering to that person but he might end up passing his own fears to his next generation.
When parents ask their kids to learn from their mistakes then, without thinking if it is possible or not, they are asking their kids to live their own fears. It is important to remember the possibility of an action having different reactions. Also, when parents assume that a particular habit or behavior will ruin their child's future, then again they are passing on their fears without realizing that why did their child chooses or denied doing a particular task. Moreover, when on one hand some parents ask their kids to live their fear, without even arguing, then, on the other hand, without giving a second thought they dismiss their child's worst fears, fear of darkness or fear of insects or even fear of performing on stage. Like I said when you allow your fears to rule you then your they have the potential to ruin your life, passing on your own trial and error experiences makes you pass on your own fears, agitations that you have still not overcome need your understanding, and to do so you have to communicate with your inner self.
Fear is just an emotion, the real things are feelings associated with it. Fear is an amalgamation of embarrassment, insecurity, pain, unwantedness, and much more, you need to find the elements that you felt when you went through this emotional phase. Question it, paraphrase while having communication with your inner self, be empathetic and nonjudgemental, only then you can overcome it or allow it to co-exist at acceptable terms.
Don't pass your experience to your young ones, pass the ability to deals with whatever comes in their life. Pass on the beauty of happiness, fear, anger, and pain, pass on the propensity to handle them all.
It is undoubtedly true that we pass out fears onto our children. And we will because the power of subconscious also intersects with emotions - in this case fear. It's a knee jerk reaction. It's difficult to be conscious all the time - extremely exhausting. Developing good habits is one but then one will ask - how much will you pursue perfection?
ReplyDeleteShort and simple way of explaining the affects of eclipse on our cycle, it made me to think that how long this inwards journey is. Congratulations to the writer 👏
ReplyDeleteWell said fear is an amalgamation of different emotions ranging from embarrassment to insecurity. Let us not pass the negatives of it to our children but let it cajole us to do well.
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